Wednesday, 16 January 2013

Overcoming All Odds by Caroline James


Overcoming all odds… a beautiful and moving post by Caroline James

I was looking through some family papers recently and came across a fading newspaper dated Friday August 17th 1945.  A headline read, ' End of World War.'  This referred to the dramatic news of Japan's unconditional surrender, as told to the nation by Prime Minister Mr Attlee.  Two day's holiday was subsequently announced to mark VJ Day and celebrations began.  Far away in a jungle in Burma my father was ultimately freed from captivity, as news began to infiltrate the numerous prison camps.  He was twenty six years old and had been a prisoner for three and a half years.  When he eventually returned to England, having been kept under close medical supervision for malnutrition, he learnt that both his parents had recently died, never to see their youngest son make it through his ordeal at the hands of the Japanese.
 
My father never held a grudge.  He re-built his life and never spoke ill of the Japanese.  He was subjected to horrors beyond our imagining and was tormented with ill health caused by repeated bouts of malaria and wounds relating to frequent beatings as a starving prisoner being forced to build a railway line.  His attitude of forgiveness taught me much and I endeavour to remember it.

Often it is difficult to find humility towards those that do us harm or put us down and I wonder where his will to survive came from.  He came from a poor family, the son of a miner who was shunned by his wealthy family because of his politics and his mother was a maid in service.  Ridiculed by local kids when he gained a grammar school scholarship, Dad survived his working class background, got his exams and went into business - he was always determined to overcome all odds.

What gave him that inner strength?  For inner strength is something we all need at certain times in our lives.  Did someone inspire him (as he inspired me)?  Did he get support from other prisoners, friends or colleagues? Problems are relative and what is great to some is small to others, its how you deal with the problem that gets you through.  Having support is invaluable, which is why a group like Famous Five Plus helps its members.  The support network and kindness shown makes magic happen.  Authors blossom in this environment and with dedication achieve great things.  It's about overcoming all odds, whichever way you choose to do it. 

How do you overcome all odds?  For me, my Dad's attitude of forgiveness enabled him to move forward (and I try to remember this - especially with any bad reviews!).



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21 comments:

  1. Very moving. A stalwart man. Tweeted.

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    1. Thank you Serena - he always said he was just an 'ordinary man'

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  2. I think this very touching post shows the writer in you, Caroline - a mix of empathy, curiosity and making connections.

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    1. I appreciate your comment Miriam. Thank you xx

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  3. Caroline, I can't imagine how your father survided his terrible time as a POW. Some years ago we visited Changi Museum in Sinapore. It is a very small place and is filled with paintings, drawings and photographs, just seeing these was heartbreaking and the memory of that visit has never left me. You father was not only a brave man, but an amazing person who learnt how to overcome all odds. Thank you for sharing this beautiful post. An inpsiration for all of us and a reminder that we can get through our difficulties with the help of support.

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    1. Thanks so much Pauline. Changi was the name of one of the many prison camps Dad was in and I'm sure the museum is a very upsetting place, I can understand why it stayed in your memory xx

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  4. I am always in awe of the generation of people who went through the wars. Nice post!

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  5. So very moving, Caroline. You and your courageous dad have given me inspiration, thank you.

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  6. Your father is an amazing man. It's not only the dedication that inspires me, but also the attitude towards the enemy. Thanks for sharing.

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  7. What a wonderful and inspiring post! Your father was clearly a remarkable man and a fantastic role model. The human spirit is truly a remarkable thing. I know my own parents stories about the war often made me wonder how they coped. As for me, I think it is sheer bloody mindedness and a refusal to let things beat me that keeps me going. xxx Thanks so much for sharing this, it really made me stop and think.

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    1. Thanks for your words Deb, there by the grace of God and all that :-)

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  8. What a moving and inspiring post, Caroline. The horrors of the war our parents endured always leaves me very humbled and in awe of their strength, ingenuity and determination to survive. That must come from the shared experienced of friends and their support is paramount to survive in this jungle of the writing world. Thank you for sharing.

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    1. Thanks for your comment Kit, support is so important and all the comments here prove it :-)

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  9. A lovely dedication to a true hero of the old stoical school of soldiers, few of whom wish to recount their ordeals in the Far East. A man I never met lies in Sai Wan War Cemetery Hong Kong. As you say, support of loved ones is vital, as are friends within groups who've come together in the strangest of ways.

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  10. A very inspirational post Caroline. What a good man your father was. Thank you for sharing x x

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    1. Thank you for taking the trouble to comment Nikki xx

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  11. An inspiring story, Caroline. It is hard not to react with anger and venom towards those we perceive have 'done as down'. But reading your account of your father's experiences, and his response to them, is truly humbling. A bad review or a critical remark cannot be equated with what he had to suffer. It's easy to snipe back but we have to be bigger than that. One persons negative opinion is a gnat bite. Brush it off. Who cares?

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